Thursday, August 1, 2019


A few days ago I came across with an interesting post on Bdsmlr about ruined orgasms. Or rather, instructions for ruining a male orgasm as completely and efficiently as possible. The list was originally posted on Tumblr, but the account seems to be inaccessible at the moment. Therefore I will copy-paste the list below.

Rules For A Perfect Ejaculation:

1. Call it what it is: ejaculation. There are no more orgasms for you.

2. Minimize or eliminate orgasmic pleasure by any means. Stimulate the penis slowly and gently and only just barely enough to trigger orgasm. Do not overstimulate.

3. The male should be instructed to relax as much as possible and not to tense up as this only increases his pleasure and may cause you to overstimulate.

4. Cease ALL stimulation the moment the ejaculatory reflex is triggered. If he is tense the timing of this may be difficult so it is important that he relax. Semen should flow (or “ooze) from the penis slowly, without spurting. If he spurts, you have overstimulated.

5. Do not touch or stimulate the penis in any way (including cleaning) until his erection has subsided, in order to ensure a total loss of pleasurable sensation.

Remember that this is not about his pleasure, but simply the gentle release of his semen!

As you all know, I am a huge fan of ruined orgasms, both as a form of porn, but also ruining my own orgasms. The list in question is an excellent set of rules, since it emphasizes many things usually forgotten especially in porn, one of the most important thing being the timing.  

The thing is, many times in porn "a ruined orgasm" seems to mean a woman letting go of the penis as soon as the male starts to ejaculate. This is way too late, since we all know the orgasm begins several seconds before the actual ejaculation.   

Naturally I reblogged the list, and couldn't help but adding a bit of personal experience to it, as well. One could say I got an inspiration, and the description became much longer than I originally anticipated. Therefore I am making an post about it on here as well.

I have described my cumming habits many times here on my blog, and if you're a regular reader of mine, you already know quite a lot about it. It is, however something I will never grow tired of talking about. Besides, repetition never hurts.

Personally, I have one thing working for me when it comes to ruining my own orgasms, and that is my impotence. Ruining your own orgasms is much easier if you're unable to get hard at all, and somehow it merely feels natural to ruin them.

As you all know, at the moment I don't cum at all, and in fact as I am writing this, it has been exactly a year since my last orgasm. However, when I did cum, at least occasionally, my favourite way of doing it was ruining my orgasms.

The ideal way for me to ejaculate consists of me sitting naked in a chair in front of a full body mirror. Usually I also have a huge butt plug inside my anus and clothespins attached on my nipples and testicles. This has been preceded by hours and hours of edging in front of my computer.

Before the ejaculation I like to relax myself as much as I can, lay back in the chair, and admire how pathetic I look, as I fiddle the tip of my penis and gradually pick up the pace. Very often I like to prolong this part as much as I can, but at some point the desire to cum becomes unbearable.

If I'm about to properly ruin my orgasm I never use the normal "two-finger technique". That simply feels wrong and way too manly, despite the lack of an erection and the pathetic size of my penis. Rather, I like to fiddle myself to the brink of ejaculation. Some way that feels much more appropriate.

As soon as I know I am beyond the point of return, I let go of my limp thing and let the wave of orgasm wash over me. Just like in the list above, I try to stay as calm as possible when this happens, and keep my breathing even.

It is also important as wel as great fun to keep an eye contact with myself at this point. This may sound weird to you, but I've found I look extremely funny when I cum, and forcing myself to look at my own face makes the whole experience incredibly humiliating.

On some occasions I like to look at my limp penis as it oozes the cum out, one lazy spurt after another. Often I also squeeze the handles of my chair at this point, to prevent myself from grabbing my limp penis. However, it is important to stay as calm as possible, and simply observe your own orgasm getting ruined.

Usually I wait until the ejaculation is completely done and not move a muscle before it is. Getting up, and taking everything off is in its own way the most humiliating part of the whole deal. What was hot as hell a few moments earlier, is now simply painful. It also makes the post orgasm shame feel tenfold.

But that's how my ejaculations are meant to be, painful, humiliating, and as little pleasurable as possible.

At the moment I have no idea when my next orgasm or ejaculation will take place. As you all know, I edge myself regularly, but do my very best not to cum. If I do decide to let myself cum at some point I am pretty sure I will want to ruin it, as completely as possible.

After all, it's good to have something to look forward to, isn't it?

1 comment:

  1. enjoying your blog.thanks for sharing your ruin tips.